Standing up, being seen, and fighting for change takes strength and perseverance. This is one reason we call our supporters “Warriors”… because they’re fierce! (‘fierce’ – vehement, intense, strong)
One of our main goals is to create a culture where survivors feel supported and safe. However, taking on victim-blaming can often cause past traumas to resurface. We encourage all supporters (regardless of whether or not they have experienced sexual assault first-hand) to engage only at the level they feel most comfortable and safe. We also encourage supporters to be mindful of how their words and actions impact others, particularly those who have experienced trauma.
Challenging attitudes and beliefs that are so ingrained in our culture can be overwhelming, frustrating, and exhausting. Supporters often end up having difficult conversations with people that they care about. So we encourage all Warriors to be patient with others and themselves and to remember that change is a process that will not happen overnight.
We believe that in order to solve large-scale social problems, we need to think outside the box. We believe that creativity, expression, and even humor can be powerful catalysts for change. Whenever we can, we seek to engage, support, and collaborate with artists, poets, and other creative people who use their art to raise awareness and change our culture.
…everyone knows people who have experienced sexual violence, whether or not they’ve told you.
…we can’t expect survivors to report or talk about what they’ve been through when we (as a culture) blame, shame, and silence them.
…most loved ones want to support survivors in their lives but aren’t sure how.
…rape myths, victim-blaming and the normalization of sexual violence are ingrained in our culture. Therefore, the first step for creating real change is looking inward and challenging our own assumptions and judgements.
…society’s toxic messages related to sexual expression (particularly female sexuality) contribute to a culture where sex is seen as dirty, aggressive, and demeaning, instead of natural, safe, and pleasurable.
…in order for real change to occur, people need to realize that this problem affects us all.
…in order to create real change, we need to address the problem at its root.
…propping up a survivor’s “bad choices” is not rape prevention, it’s victim-blaming.
…perpetrators love when we focus on victims, because it allows them to perpetrate without question or consequence.
…each person has incredible power to impact those around them, as well as the world.
…these conversations are difficult and messy, but we need to keep having them.