We have received countless public and private messages from individuals, families, and communities who have been impacted by Red My Lips. Below are some of the powerful messages, posts, and stories from April 2015. To submit a testimonial, click here.
I just wanted to thank you for your campaign! Those hands belong to my 4 year old. He is simultaneously the result of sexual violence in a relationship and what happens when you are too scared to say no. He is also my saviour. From the moment I held him, I was strong enough to leave because I wanted him to know better! Those belong to the gentlest soul I have ever met, hands that if I can help it will never cause the harm that I experienced. Your campaign has been so important to me in accepting it’s not my fault, not one time was it my fault.
On the 1st April 2015, I donned my red lipstick and headed to my weekly session with 18 juvenille offenders at a prison (correctional facility) in Johannesburg. “My Boys” of course asked what was up and we devoted the session to speaking out and standing up against sexual violence – perpetrated by any gender against any gender.
Being juvenile offenders (18 – 20) many of these boys have histories of sexual violence (as perpetrators and victims) and we discussed how hard it is for males to speak up when they are raped or abused.
Myths were debunked, lengthy discussions held and my beautiful boys wanted their voices heard. They each wrote a “sign” in red marker to be shared with the world.Their message: No means No. Real Men don’t rape.
I am incredibly proud of them and their integrity. I have Tweeted and Facebooked and shared but I wanted to honour their message to provide hope to all those affected by sending this mail to your organisation as they asked.
Thank you for giving this group of ‘criminals’ a chance to show their love and support.
For the past two years, North Quincy High School students and faculty have participated in Red My Lips during April. Both years we held assemblies and invited RML’s founder (Danielle) to come and speak about victim-blaming and consent.Danielle modeled courage and honesty for our kids, which made many students feel safe enough to open up about their own experiences. After the assemblies this year, a number of students (female and male) disclosed having experienced sexual assault. However, one disclosure was particularly surprising. After attending one of the assemblies, a male student also came forward to talk about his unhealthy relationship with an ex girlfriend. RML made him realize how coercion was common in their interactions.
RML has sparked a change in the school climate, which has been so encouraging and fortifying. And seeing students or teachers wearing red lipstick in the hallways has been like seeing fellow members of the same tribe.
~Peggy Farren, School Psychologist